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Missing the Boat

 

 

Something has been bothering me for a while. A dinner with new friends, followed by the incredible Gabby Bernstein, should have been the perfect inspiring evening. Shouldn’t it? Well in part it was. Gabby rocked the stage, poked fun at my Australian accent when I said the word “lighter” in response to one of her questions, there were hugs with some of my fav ladies afterwards (including finally meeting my trainer extraordinaire BB, so nice to finally meet her off the Skype screen). So what was the problem? Well let me tell you…

 

Have you ever heard the words someone else says and completely made them your reality?

 

Not long before Gabby took the stage, I was having a beautiful chat with a beautiful lady, fellow coach & blogger, when the words came out of her mouth “I think we have missed the boat, the coaching world is saturated, the last wave of successful coaches have passed, maybe you should concentrate on your photography” (Now that is a summary, it was several months ago, so it may have been a little different, but this is the note on rote that has been playing in my head ever since).

 

Wowser, here was someone in my field telling me to give up, that becoming a successful coach was not possible. So I listened. I think on the inside I believed she could be right. Who was I to think I could do this?

 

I asked my friends, other coaches whether they too thought this way? Some did and others didn’t, it came back to belief. Would I listen to this gorgeous woman or would I listen to myself. Tricky! Her fear permeated my soul, it lead me away from my own inner guidance and right into hers. Ick!

 

Now I know, I know, I got this shiz, I should be listening to myself and not others, to know deep within myself that my purpose is right in front of me and the only thing stopping me, is me. It can just be so damn hard sometimes! So how can I get back into my own body & the heck out of hers?

First step. Confess. Get it out on paper, in my case it is via this blog post. In yours it may be in your journal, your blog or in a note for your fridge! Do it, it works, especially if, like me, once you have it down on paper you can see how truly silly it is.

 

People say the darndest things; the most important thing to remember is that they are THEIR things, not yours. You totally have a choice as to whether you listen. As for me, when I truly listen to my heart I know I have not missed it.

I am on that damn boat!

 

Much love, em x

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22 Comments

  • Reply
    Claire Quince
    April 1, 2015 at 5:00 pm

    Missed the boat? Darling, you are the captain of the ship! What you need to remember is that you have MANY talents and whatever you wholeheartedly choose to offer the world will be a success. Onwards!

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      Emma
      April 1, 2015 at 8:51 pm

      Oh you! Thanks babe, you are such an inspiration to me x

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    Renee
    April 1, 2015 at 5:47 pm

    Gorgeously written by a very present individual 😉

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      Emma
      April 1, 2015 at 8:51 pm

      Thanks gorgeous girl, big love x

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    Aleesha
    April 1, 2015 at 5:58 pm

    It is the hardest thing to listen to something from someone who inspires you that is not necessarily correct! Believe in yourself words are just words. I’ve had countless people say to me I can’t do it, or I am eating my time and I’ve taken it on board but you know what?! The universe, and my passion has always brought me back to where I should be… Never give up x

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      Emma
      April 1, 2015 at 8:51 pm

      Love this Leesh! In other unrelated news I need to book in to see you, you crazy talented lady! xx

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    Jasmin
    April 1, 2015 at 8:11 pm

    You got this! x

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      Emma
      April 1, 2015 at 8:49 pm

      Thanks beautiful! x

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    Sophie
    April 1, 2015 at 8:16 pm

    SO RELATE! I’ve been feeling this off and on for a year, and badly for the last couple of months (just pulling myself back up the last week or so). I think these thoughts have a little truth in them because I think it is harder than it was to become just a coach which bummed me out for a bit but then I remembered that I never wanted to be ‘just a coach’. I want to be a writer, a creator, a business leader, a speaker, a whole heap of different things. The fact that its harder for some people to be successful purely as a coach gives them the exciting opportunity to experiment with having awesome side projects. And for the other people that are just focused on coaching, if they do have enough of that focus and that self belief then like you said they will do it. Loved this post 🙂

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      Emma
      April 1, 2015 at 8:49 pm

      Thanks Sophie, you are so right.
      I am such a little hybrid! I am coach, photographer, creative and that is just at the moment! Such a gorgeous profession that allows freedom, individuality and is being of service to others (and sneakily ourselves!) Love your work sweetheart x

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    Che // Life With Che
    April 1, 2015 at 8:48 pm

    I love that there’s so much I miss out there in the blogsphere but that this post fell upon my Facebook newsfeed. Haha, I WAS THE ONE WHO MADE THAT STUPID COMMENT! I’m so happy you wrote about this Emma because it is SUCH a great message for people to hear. You are WONDERFUL! You are talented and original and you write like a f!cking BOSS! Ignore my ridiculous remark that was no doubt induced by a big day, general tiredness and Gabby anticipation. What I do recall from the night was the amount of passion I heard in your voice when you spoke of your photography and the pride I saw in your eyes when you shared your photos with me. That’s all 🙂 Thanks for this beautiful reminded to be more mindful of my words love. Che. XXX

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      Emma
      April 2, 2015 at 9:31 am

      Thanks gorgeous girl. Your words struck a chord and allowed for a beautiful little exploration! It seems that so many of us struggle with the same thoughts, so thank you for being brave enough to say them out loud, which facilitates this much needed conversation.
      Love your work sweetheart!
      FYI – I have been exploring my photography a little more recently. THANK YOU x

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    Michelle Marie McGrath
    April 2, 2015 at 9:10 am

    You have well and truly set sail on the Love Boat 😉 love xx

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      Emma
      April 2, 2015 at 9:27 am

      Thanks beautiful Michelle, blessed to have you as a fellow passenger xx

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    Katie
    April 2, 2015 at 10:52 am

    I can relate so much to feeling that way. I feel old sometimes amongst a world of younger coaches. And then I remind myself that WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT. And our clients are all different too. And life experience…there’s so much to be gained from that with coaching…so much. You have most definitely “not” missed the boat! And you’re so right – people say the darndest things without truly even thinking…xx

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      Emma
      April 6, 2015 at 5:50 pm

      Thanks so much Katie, have been loving your blog. It is beautiful x

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    Jessica Kali
    April 3, 2015 at 10:39 am

    Oh I so get this Em!

    There have definitely been times where I felt this when I was just starting out with my coaching training. The doubt that maybe it was already a saturated industry and that I’d never be able to make it. However the deeper I have progressed on my own personal development journey, the more clarity I have gained around the type of work I do. This has also made me realise that although there may be a lot of coaches out there at the moment, there are also more and more people that are searching for that perfect coach. There is no limit to how many coaches someone can work with, and in my personal experience once you start working with one the outcomes are so rewarding you never want to stop!

    There is no one that can work in the exact same way that I do, and there is no one that can work in the exact same way that you do. If we are authentic in how we show up in the online world, we will always attract the clients that are perfectly suited to working with us. They will connect with us in a way that no other coach can compete with.

    Just some food for thought 🙂 xx

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      Emma
      April 6, 2015 at 5:51 pm

      So, so true beautiful. Love this reminder x

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    Megan Holgate
    April 6, 2015 at 7:33 am

    I am so proud Emma that you ‘Outed’ this conversation, which no doubt would have put a complete downer on your special night out and I am sure, continued to play heavily on your mind for days after. However, you are too astute and you realised it was your fellow coaches belief’s and ‘Not YOURS.’ Now you can as you have said ‘Let the boat sail!’ Go girl xxxxx

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      Emma
      April 6, 2015 at 5:52 pm

      Thanks Megan. Big love x

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    Marissa
    April 6, 2015 at 12:37 pm

    So beautiful! Thank you for really owning it and giving us permission to do the same.

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      Emma
      April 6, 2015 at 5:52 pm

      You are so welcome Marissa, thanks for popping by xx

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