Something has been bothering me for a while. A dinner with new friends, followed by the incredible Gabby Bernstein, should have been the perfect inspiring evening. Shouldn’t it? Well in part it was. Gabby rocked the stage, poked fun at my Australian accent when I said the word “lighter” in response to one of her questions, there were hugs with some of my fav ladies afterwards (including finally meeting my trainer extraordinaire BB, so nice to finally meet her off the Skype screen). So what was the problem? Well let me tell you…
Have you ever heard the words someone else says and completely made them your reality?
Not long before Gabby took the stage, I was having a beautiful chat with a beautiful lady, fellow coach & blogger, when the words came out of her mouth “I think we have missed the boat, the coaching world is saturated, the last wave of successful coaches have passed, maybe you should concentrate on your photography” (Now that is a summary, it was several months ago, so it may have been a little different, but this is the note on rote that has been playing in my head ever since).
Wowser, here was someone in my field telling me to give up, that becoming a successful coach was not possible. So I listened. I think on the inside I believed she could be right. Who was I to think I could do this?
I asked my friends, other coaches whether they too thought this way? Some did and others didn’t, it came back to belief. Would I listen to this gorgeous woman or would I listen to myself. Tricky! Her fear permeated my soul, it lead me away from my own inner guidance and right into hers. Ick!
Now I know, I know, I got this shiz, I should be listening to myself and not others, to know deep within myself that my purpose is right in front of me and the only thing stopping me, is me. It can just be so damn hard sometimes! So how can I get back into my own body & the heck out of hers?
First step. Confess. Get it out on paper, in my case it is via this blog post. In yours it may be in your journal, your blog or in a note for your fridge! Do it, it works, especially if, like me, once you have it down on paper you can see how truly silly it is.
People say the darndest things; the most important thing to remember is that they are THEIR things, not yours. You totally have a choice as to whether you listen. As for me, when I truly listen to my heart I know I have not missed it.
I am on that damn boat!
Much love, em x