Welcome to the first in a little four part series on the amazing speakers at this years Utopia Women’s Wellness event in Brisbane. Such an amazing day, so many notes taken (so many my pen died!) a few deep breathing exercises and so much love. So let’s kick off with the divine Melissa Ambrosini.
The nervous anticipation in the crowd, the chatter between friends, the familiar faces scattered in a sea of amazing women.
It is Utopia, literally Utopia.
The first in a stellar line up of motivational speakers, one of my personal favourites Melissa Ambrosini. Her “12 Steps to Wellness” was one of the first eBooks I purchased (only the universe knows how many have followed, I refuse to tally it up for fear of falling off my chair). Melissa oozes authenticity and generosity through her words, her blog and even more so in person.
The music starts, the familiar tones of Pharrell Williams fill the room and everyone is on their feet, Melissa commanding the stage with her own self confessed “daggy dance moves.” If only we all looked so amazing looking daggy! (Oh shush up Mean Girl, My daggy dance moves are AMAZING!) This Mean Girl I speak of lives inside me, she no doubt has a place inside of you too. You might know her as your ego… that sometimes nasty little voice that tells you your dance moves are shit, you look like a fool and you really shouldn’t have eaten that cupcake.
In the space of 45 minutes, Melissa covered so many juicy topics, with the main focus being Love vs Fear. What holds us back in life, the fear of not being enough, learning how to make friends with that inner mean girl and knowing how important it is to turn down her volume!
There is so much I could say about this session but I will let Melissa’s simple yet potent points do the talking.
Some of my favourite take outs were;
1. Choose love over fear
So many things in this session resonated with me but mostly what continues to ring loud and clear is fact that you have a choice! You can live from a place of fear or choose love. Exercise, not for the fear of getting fat, but for the love of your body, to keep it fit and strong. Love, not for the fear of being alone but for the beautiful connection you experience when you do. Eat from a place of nourishment and not from deprivation. Choose Love, not fear. Simple! Well the change may not come easy, but it is most certainly worth it. In every moment you have this choice and I love that fact. Notice in your body how that makes you feel. When you make a choice, do you know the difference? Tune into it. Learn.
2. Make friends with your Mean Girl
You may never get ‘rid’ of her but you can certainly know when she is speaking to you, take her for lunch, laugh at her jokes and tell her to pipe down! The three steps to this include;
- Awareness – Be aware of her presence
- Action – Choose LOVE, laugh at her and come back to the present moment.
- Practice – Getting her to pipe down is a moment to moment practice, be kind.
3. Expectations ruin relationships (One of my personal favs)
This applies across the board; it could be the relationship with your partner, your mother or your kids. How often do we let the weight of expectations ruin a perfectly good day? Melissa refers to this as an “Expectation Hangover.” Ease up on others and on yourself. (Expectations on yourself can be just as harmful as with those you love, cause baby you are important!)
4. You are NOT your stories
If you put every story you have ever told yourself about your worth into a backpack and left it behind, who would you be? So often we miss the magic of the moment, because we are worried about the past or maybe the future. Love lives in the present moment; show up in your life whole and present and watch the magic unfold.
5. What would Love do?
Melissa speaks of a time where she had slaved over a hot stove (with love of course) for dinner with a friend who cancelled 10 mins before arrival, in that moment, most people would have been shitty, annoyed and probably quite passive aggressive. Melissa asked what love would do? Her response was then kind, loving and understanding. (I will be honest, I would normally be the ranting passive aggressive lunatic)
Love wants what’s best for those around you, before overreacting or snapping ask yourself, what would love do? Easier said than done, but I do love this concept and plan to try to ask this question in as many moments as possible.
From start to finish, so many delish and juicy moments in between!
My favourite part of Melissa’s 45 minutes came from a seemly awkward activity at the end of the session where one group was asked to stand up, take a few seconds to think of something they wish they had been told when they were younger. Melissa then asked that they repeat this by whispering in the ear of three people they didn’t know. People squirmed, people shimmied and people whispered in strangers ears. It was perfection. I wondered what everyone else in the room heard in those precious whispers; I can only assume that it is EXACTLY what they needed to hear at that precise moment, because that is certainly what it was for me, it honestly couldn’t have been more perfect.There were three beautiful ladies who told me their secrets, but only one I remember…
“You can be anything you want to be”
For more amazing bites of inspiration, meditations and gorgeous free content, jump over and visit Melissa at http://www.melissaambrosini.com
Where in your life can you choose Love? Did you attend Utopia and have this experience for yourself? I would love to hear from you in the comments below.
Much love, em x