I have been working with a Phenomenal coach for the last month or so (yes, even coaches have coaches) and I can’t believe the changes I have seen in myself already. Changes that I have tried, time and time again that never seem to stick.
TOUCH WOOD. (Yes, I am crazy superstitious).
Today, I want to share a little something we worked on last week, something that really struck a chord (and hopefully it will for you too). During our session I was asked to write down the awful things/stories I say to myself in my head… FUN! (Please note my sarcasm) Now there were the ones I was conscious of, that I know well, that I know are my stories, but there were a few ah ha moments in there.
The boring ones like:
+ You won’t achieve anything while you are fat
+ You are not enough
+ You are just the fat one
+ You won’t amount to anything
Nothing new there… but the ones that had shown up for me earlier that week were a little new to the realisation, I knew the conversation had happened in my head, but had never recognised they may not, in fact be true.
They went a little something like this:
+ You talk too much
+ You dominate the conversation
+ They don’t like you, they just tolerate you
+ You have nothing to offer
+ They aren’t laughing with you, they are laughing at you
And that was in the presence of some of my beautiful Soul Sisters. Wowser.
Reading these, out loud, was a pretty painful, uncomfortable experience but it was enlightening and a pretty amazing exercise, to vocalise the terrible things that sometimes run on rote in my head.
Now it is totally possible (and in some but definitely not all cases probable) that there is in fact some truth in these statements, but Emma, why so mean? I think it is time for a reframe…
So this week I am focusing on rewriting these stories, as in literally re-writing them into kinder statements. Hopefully, the stories are done with, ready to be released really soon; but in the meantime, if they have to be said, they will be said with kindness, not malice.
Yes, I plan on killing them with Kindness…
Is there a story you tell yourself that needs a reframe? Or even a release.
If you want to be brave, I would love to hear them in the comments below
Much love, em x