When You Compare Yourself to Others You Dull Your Own Sparkle : 5 Ways to Kick Comparison to the Curb!



You have so much of your own sparkle beautiful! But do you know it? (you sure as hell should, you are INCREDIBLE!) So where in your life do you compare yourself to others? At work, at home, online? It has become increasingly easy to check out what others are doing and let’s be honest, be a little (or a lot) jelly!! The women in my life at the moment are doing crazy, amazing things! Generally speaking, you would think I would be uber crazy stupid jealous. I will admit that initially that may have been the case. I am only human right!?

What I have come to realise is that the more crazy, uber, exciting things that are happening before my eyes the more inspired I am to create. To create crazy uber exciting things myself. The key is to be inspired, pop that inspiration away and then get the hell on with it! Every now and then my mean girl rears her ugly head, tells me I am not enough, don’t create enough and don’t have anything to offer! If you have the same issue, here are five little things to keep her in check:




1. Theodore Roosevelt was right, comparison IS the thief of joy

It’s been said a lot lately, but people generally only show their ‘highlight reel’ what you see isn’t all they get! Makes sense right, we all do it. Check the photo a zillion times before we Instagram it, very rarely show the ordinary moments, the triple chins and the heartbreak. Instead it’s the holidays, the new house, the new dress, the amazing blog that gets all the attention. What we need to remember is the only person we should be measuring ourselves against is ourselves! Comparing will get you nowhere, so the solution? Stop doing it! Get joyful about what you have, because generally we have so much more than we acknowledge.


2. Inspired by someone? Let them know!

You have been checking out some babes blog, you can’t believe how much you resonate with what she is saying, TELL HER. Reach out, connect. You may just inspire her right back!  Last week I sent a beautiful lady a short but sweet email wishing her well in a new venture and letting her know her contribution to the world was so important, I expected nothing in return, I simply sent it off with love. She loved it and shared it with her tribe! It gave me shivers, something I said had just as much impact on her as she has on me.


3. Sometimes the only option is to disconnect to truly connect

Get offline and get outside into the real world. Go to a networking event with some incredible women. Get to know them. We all have the same fears and everyone started somewhere, it’s hard to remember that when all you see is the greatness that is now. The beauty I have found in moving in these circles is the collective encouragement, not competition, everyone wants to see each other succeed and damn that’s beautiful.


4. Create a worthiness practice

Every day for a month, write yourself a quick little note of why you are worthy of greatness, or what you have contributed to the world today. It could be something you have done for your mum, child, husband, random stranger or something you have done for yourself. Smile at some dude at the coffee shop that brings a smile to his face? Done! Use this as a reminder, a daily practice to bring you back to your gorgeous self.


5. There is no such thing as perfection

This is so important to remember. Nobody’s perfect. Did you read that? NOBODY. Every day is a chance to do more, create more and be more. But you know what? Sometimes we need to also remember that we don’t actually NEED more, we are enough just as is! And that is possibly perfection…



If you have any comparison cures that work for you, share the wisdom with me (us) below, I would love to hear from you.


Much love, em x

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  • Reply
    Michelle Marie McGrath
    November 13, 2014 at 2:32 am

    Wise words Emma and some great reminders here!
    So true that when we are comparing ourselves to someone who we find inspiring, the best thing to do is share a genuine compliment with them. Love it! xx

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      November 16, 2014 at 11:09 pm

      Thanks Michelle x

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    November 13, 2014 at 3:02 am

    Gorgeous post Em! x

    • Reply
      November 16, 2014 at 11:08 pm

      Thanks beautiful x

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    Jess May
    November 13, 2014 at 3:52 am

    #2 is my fave point! There is a fine line between inspiration and comparison. If someone is doing something great and you’re spurred to up your game too, then wicked! But if its purely because you feel like you’re not up to scratch and need to be doing the same as everyone else then its going to be detrimental to your authentic voice.
    Great post! <3

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      November 16, 2014 at 11:09 pm

      Thanks Jess! You are so right, that line between the two is so close, it is all about how we position it! x

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    Claire Baker
    November 17, 2014 at 3:40 am

    Love it honey! My mantra right now is:

    “I commit to elevating myself out of idolisation of others by trusting my own innovative and creative nature.”

    And the point on social media – spot on!! x

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      November 18, 2014 at 2:57 am

      Thanks babe! I learnt from the best! x

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