Five Things I Learnt on the Other Side of the Lens

Some Wild Darling


I have a confession to make… I hated photos… Say what?


OK, let me be more specific, I didn’t hate all photos, just ones of myself. I like to think there is a reason I am so good behind the camera and that is so I don’t have to be in front of it! Seriously!


Now, when I say this to women, generally they all concur, they feel the same (well everyone but my friends Liz & Jess, they LOVE being in photos, Liz is the self confessed Selfie Queen) but for most, seeing themselves in JPEG format seems to be a sticking point.


For me, it was because I wasn’t particularly comfortable in my own skin. I am not at my ‘ideal’ weight, I look in the mirror and I am not totally mortified but that all changed when I saw myself in a photo. Did I really look that way? OMG that’s what I look like?! Really?!


So having my photos taken for Some Wild Darling has been a massive example of project procrastination. I booked in, I committed and then I cancelled. Then, when I absolutely had to I rescheduled, sucked it up and got in front of Michelle’s lens; and with a little of her magic weaved, I now have photos (and not just photos I like, but photo’s I love).


Going through the proofs, I realised a few things:


You ain’t going to like ‘em all! :: There are some that I LOVE and there are some that I don’t. That isn’t about the talent of the photographer, but about me. I asked the opinion of those that I love, those that I know can be objective and I got resounding positive feedback, “they are ALL beautiful, you look beautiful, I love them all.” They may have, but I didn’t which leads me to my next point…


Trust your own opinion :: It doesn’t matter if someone else loves them, if they don’t resonate with you, you won’t use them! Go with your gut on this, when choosing your images from your proofs listen to others but ultimately if you feel still feel a little unsure about a particular photo, don’t select it. There are sure to be plenty of images that will make you smile, go with those instead.


The ones I love are the ones that scream ME :: My absolute favourite images from my shoot are on the beach (surprise, surprise). I am laughing, it is in the moment. I was laughing, not because it was forced, posed or because I was pretending, but because the waves were catching me by surprise and I was totally loving it. That is me, it captures my spirit and it is the type of image I love to capture for my clients.


Be yo’self, dress like yo’self :: Who would have thunk it huh? Wear stuff that you actually wear. Perfect example, a chambray shirt. I had the bright idea that I would wear one, it had popped up in a few images on my vision board, I like how it looked and I thought it would be a hit. Well, it wasn’t.  Problem being, I had one but I very rarely wear it. So when I look at the photos, they make me uncomfortable because they don’t FEEL like me, the door behind me is gorgeous, my hair is great and so is my make up but as far as the overall images, I don’t love them. They are gorgeously composed but because I tried to dress like someone else, I will never use them. I am all about authentic visual branding and lady, chambray, it ain’t me!

But my kimono, over a maxi dress, dripping in Violet Gray jewellery? Ahhhh hell yes.


It wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be :: Michelle made me feel really beautiful, it is so important to work with someone who makes you feel totally comfortable, because if you aren’t it can be a disaster. So something, that for so long I had convinced myself would be as painful as pulling teeth, was actually pretty fun and it was pretty amazing being on the other side of the lens for once.


It gives me a whole new perspective on working with my gorgeous clients.




Need a little visual revamp on your website or want to jump in front of my lens? I would love to hear from you! Or let me know in the comments below if I struck a chord, how do you feel about photos?


Much love, em x

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  • Reply
    Claire Baker
    August 5, 2015 at 6:28 pm

    More photos, more photos!!!!!!


  • Reply
    Claire Baker
    August 5, 2015 at 6:29 pm

    And yes – I agree with everything you’ve written babe. I would also add, PHOTOSHOOT HANGOVERS!! They are a thing. I don’t know how models do it! x

  • Reply
    August 6, 2015 at 8:33 am

    Beautiful lady! I hear you on every word and every point. Brilliant advise – thank you for being honest, so the rest of us can feel more normal and prepared! The photos of you on the beach are absolutely stunning and yes, they scream YOU! Your soul sings through these images. I’m so glad you have them and that we get to see them. Huge love xo
    PS – I’m with Claire. More photos!!

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    Renee Bell
    August 6, 2015 at 2:14 pm

    yes yes yes!!!!
    great post. and I agree with Claire – I want to see more photos…

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